tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365863749204136514.post1585088850658892597..comments2023-07-03T06:18:09.156-05:00Comments on Crossing the Bridge: Death and Dyingt sandershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06417437802450560280noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365863749204136514.post-84182228689837778262013-08-15T17:26:24.838-05:002013-08-15T17:26:24.838-05:00Summer Richards said...
Hey Tara...there's not...Summer Richards said...<br />Hey Tara...there's not a lot of sleeping right after the someone dies. There's a lot of tossing and turning, and getting up and wandering the house. <br /><br />The only thing you can really make yourself do is breathe...in and out...to begin the adjustment to the new normal...a normal you don't want and didn't ask for. You don't want them to be dead and you don't want them to be gone but gone they are. <br /><br />And for a while you feel the missing of them. Every second of every day seems far more empty than it ought to be and that middle of you where they used to be takes up so much of you, you just don't think you can go another step...but you do...what's the alternative? <br /><br />On you go without them and more and more of your life goes forward and the empty begins to fill up with other people other things...and soon the time without them is more than the time with them.<br /><br />Eventually the new normal is just normal and you can imagine your life with that person in it...not that you wouldn't give anything to have them back but you are OK and on balance again.<br /><br />Thankfully, we only have to walk this path as alone as we want to. God himself has been down this road. <br /><br />August 14, 2013 at 3:42 PM<br />t sandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06417437802450560280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365863749204136514.post-52661040238058577682013-08-15T17:24:56.859-05:002013-08-15T17:24:56.859-05:00Blogger Joy Kaye said...
You probably don't r...Blogger Joy Kaye said...<br /><br />You probably don't really need answers to your questions, but they do wake up with that crushing feeling.<br /><br />But they also wake up without it.<br /><br />Sometimes they appreciate the hug of someone who can comfort without intense familial emotion.<br /><br />And, oddly, they will remember you. Maybe not your name, but you. And the ways you helped them in the middle of the night.<br /><br />We've learned and taught our girls in the past few years that death is part of life. Kind of hard to think of it that way until you have to...but it is. <br /><br />And it's okay...really okay.<br />t sandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06417437802450560280noreply@blogger.com