#2. Having a Support System is Vital
While this may seem like an elementary concept, I assure you, it is not. You have long adapted to the ideology of western culture and have prided yourself on being independent and self-sufficient. This ideology has often led to loneliness, isolation, and, at times, depression.
You have always been surrounded by various communities and been involved in a myriad of relationships. You have lived your life being a good friend to most everyone, but it has been rare that you have allowed others to actually be your friend. You have worked hard to keep people at arms length and, therefore, spent the majority of your life maintaining a high level of distance. You have done this for personal privacy and as a defense from the fear of being unloved and unwanted. Sadly, this will result in significant limitations on your ability to have true intimacy, authenticity, and transparency.
It is within true intimacy, authenticity, and transparency, within the sacred place of vulnerability, that deep connection and support is found.
Life and time has taught you the need for change. Life and time demanded that you lay down the pride and fear and learn to trust. Laying aside shame and confusion you have learned what vulnerability looks like, feels like. You have learned to be authentic and transparent to those close to you. You have learned to let people be your friend, learned to depend, learned to need.
Life was not meant to be lived alone. We read that:
"Two are better than one.”
“It is not good for man to be alone.”
“A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
“if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?”
"Bear one another’s burdens”
My dear young self, in time, you will find that you have allowed yourself to have a support system. A strong, life saving, support system. And once you have it, it is then that you will know how profoundly vital it is.
While this may seem like an elementary concept, I assure you, it is not. You have long adapted to the ideology of western culture and have prided yourself on being independent and self-sufficient. This ideology has often led to loneliness, isolation, and, at times, depression.
You have always been surrounded by various communities and been involved in a myriad of relationships. You have lived your life being a good friend to most everyone, but it has been rare that you have allowed others to actually be your friend. You have worked hard to keep people at arms length and, therefore, spent the majority of your life maintaining a high level of distance. You have done this for personal privacy and as a defense from the fear of being unloved and unwanted. Sadly, this will result in significant limitations on your ability to have true intimacy, authenticity, and transparency.
It is within true intimacy, authenticity, and transparency, within the sacred place of vulnerability, that deep connection and support is found.
Life and time has taught you the need for change. Life and time demanded that you lay down the pride and fear and learn to trust. Laying aside shame and confusion you have learned what vulnerability looks like, feels like. You have learned to be authentic and transparent to those close to you. You have learned to let people be your friend, learned to depend, learned to need.
Life was not meant to be lived alone. We read that:
"Two are better than one.”
“It is not good for man to be alone.”
“A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
“if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?”
"Bear one another’s burdens”
My dear young self, in time, you will find that you have allowed yourself to have a support system. A strong, life saving, support system. And once you have it, it is then that you will know how profoundly vital it is.
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